“Your article on Camaraderie makes clear a lot more than I had imagined about it. The support system they provide for each other is very valuable and constructive, and the loss of it should bring grief because it is a serious loss. But it highlights something else that shouldn’t be "else." A married couple should provide this same kind of support system for each other. But rather than being united against a common enemy, having each other's back, working around their weaknesses and depending upon their strengths, and making sacrifices for them, they identify each other as the enemy. Rather than be a team they act as individual competitors where there can be only one winner, and winners need losers.
Providing support and making sacrifices for another is love. A marriage, where there is a greater recognition of love, has love fade, and often continue into hate, because there is competition instead of camaraderie. The camaraderie of a military unit fades where there is all vacation and fun and no threat to be overcome. A marriage may crumble simply because the couple has it so good.
So, we wonder why God lets challenges come into our lives, as we pray that he will strengthen our marriage.”
The article is spot on, which is one reason I am using it. The other is that my well was very dry as the deadline approached. Instead of sharing ‘dry” water, I am sure you’ll find Oral’s work a cold drink in a dry land.
The idea of a common enemy is a powerful force in camaraderie across the board. If modern families grasped the fact that powerful evil forces are the enemy of the family, as the family is the first institution on earth started by the Lord Himself! Any departure from the design drawn by our creator is a form of rebellion that can only bring personal heartache and the ultimate destruction of civilization. Trouble is, too many families tend to think of other members as enemies. The old saw of “all for one and one for all” needs to be repeated and implemented as the family battle moto.
The “all for one, one for all” family is a force that Satan hates and those that would be his emissaries fear. Some of the families I grew up around were immigrants and they knew that they were, for the most part, strangers in a strange land. Those who would take advantage of them knew they had better be prepared for war as the family would stick together as one. Strangely, these glued families had stronger marriages and thus families that over the course of one generation rose from exclusion to acceptance and even prominence.
Trouble does not destroy families. A lack of love and common ideals contributes to the demise of hearth and home. As Paul said, we are to by love serve one another!
Copyright © 2016 Larry Lilly
It by The one. Oral Deckard