The truth be known, I don’t have any idea. I have read over one hundred books and articles dealing with grief and I have noticed one thing common to all such books and articles. The grieving person needs to talk and has very little need to listen. Note these three verses, from 28 in the Bible:
Job 2:13 So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great.
Psalm 31:9 Have mercy on me, O LORD, for I am in trouble; My eye wastes away with grief, Yes, my soul and my body!
Isaiah 53:3 He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him.
Job is in the deepest valley of grief as he has suffered the loss of all things including his children. Wise people simply sat with him. Very wise people indeed, for they knew they could not honestly say, “I know how you feel.” Grief strike’s each person differently.
David in Psalm 31 is grieving over loss caused by his own foolish act, yet we learn that grief does not differentiate from caused or inflicted loss, the pain is there.
Isaiah is writing prophetically about the deepest of grief in the heart of Messiah, our Lord Jesus Christ. The verse comforts in that Jesus knows all about our struggle with the terrible pain of grief. Talk to Jesus, unload your heart to Him who is the greatest listener! A well-meaning friend of mine called Jesus, “The big eared counselor.” Think about it!
From his heart via his pen to the character, Macbeth, Shakespeare speaks this gem for those who grieve:
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o’er wrought heart and bids it break.”
Grieving? Talk with Jesus and a kind person who will listen. That’s what Mary did in the garden just outside the empty tomb of Jesus. She talked with Jesus, thinking He was the gardener. Therefore, I take it we can talk to others who care enough to simply listen and only ask a few questions designed to keep us talking.
John Greenleaf Whittier captured this in his line, “And many a raptured minstrel among the Sons of Light, when asked, “whence cometh thy song:” will say, ‘I learned it in the night!’”
Copyright © 2016 Larry Lilly
No grief IT work. Oral Deckard
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