8/29/64 was a gorgeous sunny day, it would be hard to tailor make a better day for two people in love to be joined in the Holy Estate of Matrimony. I don’t recall much about the ceremony, as I was in a zombie like state of mind. Our wedding pictures reveal that my bride was suffering the same, as one of the photos show her expression seeming to say, “My God, what have I done.” The answer has now taken fifty-two years to get a full answer, well almost full.
I do know that around four hours after the ceremony, we checked into a motel, $8.00 per night, and the lovely, deeply in love with Jesus new wife sat bedside and beckoned me to sit with her. She took my hand, held it tightly in her tiny ones, looked me straight in the eye and stated her position on the proper exercise of the husband/wife roles in the estate which we had entered a short time before. Her words;
“Larry, we are Christians and we believe the Bible. Pastors says the Bible says you are to rule the roost, and I am to obey. I understand the reason for this. You’re the boss… Now here’s what I want you to do.”
I thought I understood! I must say she has done a thorough job of teaching me just how to be successful at “bossing.” One critic stated, “Mrs. Lilly rules him, period.” I told the smart mouth, “how dare you to say such a thing. You could at least add, ‘with a gentle hand.’”
One of the secrets of the longevity of our relationship has been that I know she really, deeply cares for my well-being. Once, when my body was depleted of electrolytes due to over exertion, we thought I might have been having a heart attack. She immediately wrote a letter to the hospital asking them to send an ambulance. I watched with a heart beating in wonder at the depth of her love, as she placed, not one, but two postage stamps on the envelope. What a woman!
King Solomon stated: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22. Not due to any great wisdom on my part, but a leading of the Lord, I did better than Solomon, who married three hundred women and tried out 700 others, in that my first marriage as a Christian was to Joyce and we have journeyed through life, raised four children, with all of its ups and downs for 52 years of wedded bliss.
A few years ago I wrote a little book, “Silver Threads and Golden Needles” in which I used this quote:
“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years.” Simone Signoret.
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