In his book, The Reason for My Hope, Billy Graham tells of a woman who married herself citing this vow: “I, Nadine, promise to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish in a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self.”
Over many years I have encountered many people who wonder why their marriage failed; they lived with another person, but in reality they were married to “their beautiful self.”
Here’s the kicker in Billy’s article: “After a man was married to himself for a few years, he divorced himself, claiming irreconcilable differences, and said he would look for happiness somewhere else and a place to belong.”
Sometime ago I read of a man who married his dog! Not a “Trumpian” dog, but a pedigreed canine with hair all over its body that spent a lot of time barking when it wanted its way!
Growing up and often exposed to what was called Hill Billy music, I heard a song that wailed that a woman treated her man so much like a dog that he was, “chasing rabbits, scratching out fleas and howling at the moon!”
Men say, “It’s hard to understand women, while women allege, falsely, that it’s the men who are hard to understand.” Thus we have the War Between the Sexes. Wars are hard to understand and why this one has lasted longer than all the political wars put together is hard to understand, except for a few Borscht-Belt comedians that nailed it with this pure philosophic bit: “The War Between the Sexes will never be won due to too much fraternizing with the enemy.” We are stuck with the status quo barring a miracle from on high!
How many times have you heard the single, Dr. Bottlestopper, share his/her “Secrets of a Happy Marriage?” I suppose that Bachelor/Bachelorette ignorance is some form of bliss. Married and single commentators on the bliss of marriage insist that the woman completes or at least compliments the man. As to the woman complimenting the man, I must say that in the early days of our now 52 years of wedded bliss, Joyce complimented me often on the glory of my thick black hair. I mentioned this to her the other day asking, “Why is it that you never compliment me on my hair?” She mumbled, “Oh, Larry, believe me, there is a valid reason for this.” I’m still mulling over what the reason may be.
Genesis 3:12 Then the man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate."
There’s more to this verse than you may think. It is the first post fall utterance of Adam and it may be the root of most gender conflict. Placing blame is not acceptable to God!
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